Entry for Dec 4, 2009

And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the wind longs to play with your hair. *Kahlil Gibran

The Abused Woman - Part 1

The question was asked, tonight, as to why I CHOSE to stay in such an abusive relationship for those eight years…..

I tried to explain it like this:

In 1991 I took the time to attend the Life Line Counselors course in my attempt at serving humanity. Having lost my hubby to cancer the previous year, I was all fire and flame in guiding others through their heartache and so on.

The first thing I learnt there was to listen. Listen first! When it is my turn, I will then have my turn to speak. Wish I had learnt that the same day I came into this place we call life.

With all my new ‘knowledge’ I joined the SAP to be able to be even more effective. If I had known what I would have been exposed to, I might have chosen another way of serving…. Protection was not quite on my list!

It wasn’t very long before Cilla was the one that was called out to the domestic disputes… on or off duty, she wasn’t left out of any of them. She was known as the Good Samaritan… Oh man! I had so much patience, so much sympathy…. EXCEPT for those women who ‘chose’ to stay with their abusive significant others!!

There was this one couple who would get drunk and fight every single Saturday….. and I mean EVERY Saturday…. I did my best to help her see the light (him too) … he used to bash her up terribly. Physically and verbally! We would go and drop him off at his mom’s house on the Bluff and that was that until the next Saturday…. This went on for about a month until I said to her……. “don’t phone us next week, you choose to live like this” I simply and honestly couldn’t understand how any woman could live like that. I have to mention that after a while I began to understand how some men just loose it! No, no, don’t misunderstand me, there is nooooooo excuse for a man getting all physically violent…. But shucks! Sometimes I felt like klapping her myself! But that’s another story…

I knew in my heart of hearts that there was no one and nothing that would ever put me in such a situation. WRONG….

When His Lordshit and I first started ‘going out’, he was Mr Charm Hisself…. I didn’t know it was possible for any one man to be so caring and wonderful and and and

Cilla was attending singing lessons and hoping to not only sing at karaoke. Music had always ruled her heart. Expressing herself in song was the best!!

He was happy with what I was preparing myself for….. BUT then I had to start singing duets with men… oh oh…… How could I not be in love with ‘him’ when I looked into his eyes and sang My Endless Love? Cilla was beginning to get noticed at karaoke and even had an offer of joining a little local ‘band’ as lead singer! *pats herself on the shoulder* (“,)

Shoo! Where was I going with this? Oh yes!!

During this time I never noticed… I mean truly never noticed His Lordshit taking over my thinking for me… To those reading this, who haven’t been there yet… God forbid you every understand what I mean, coz then you’re in a spot of trouble!

Yes, Cilla began to see that she was ‘leading them on’. She shouldn’t have wiggled her booty on stage like that. Let alone allow them to kiss her hand when climbing off stage…

She soon began to see the error of her ways. It wasn’t long before she had stopped lessons, didn’t sing any more and rather sat at home than go out and do all those wrong things! The wicked and evil woman she was! Jislaaik, I mean, catch a wake up girl!

Did Cilla know that he was a narcissist? No, she didn’t even know what a narcissist was at the time. She didn’t know how cleverly they take over your life.

Almost back to normal

Well, Peter's folks went home today. :) His father is an absolute honey! He's an Austrian with a very heavy German accent and he is so laid back.

On the other hand, his mom, is a true terror! lol

Things are not totally back to normal yet, Peter goes back to work on Friday and then my days are my own again. :))

Then I will start 'the story' from the beginning...

My Summer Collection ....

I have recently taken up beading. These are a few of the items I have made.

Look at me Marcy!! Congratulations again!